Friday, June 1, 2012

Life is short; why make the hell out of it?


If you want to laugh, just speak to the person/people that are near you. You will never know that the person is best at cracking timely jokes. We cannot judge the book by its cover, and that is why you will be amazed to know that a person that appears quite is rather actually  fun. Auto-rickshaw drivers are the best comedians. If you ask them a route to a place, they point out their left hands, but ask us to go toward right. Of course, I have to mention one of my colleagues. He is one of the best at cracking jokes casually. Here is an example of his wit. 
We usually will have a send-off meeting when someone leaves the company. Everyone will speak about his or her experience working with that person and wish him/her luck. When he (my ex-colleague) got his chance, he said looking at the person (who was his team lead), "Of course you have to leave man. Then how will we become team leads?"
However, there are people that make sarcastic jokes such that we will be forced to handle/face embarrassing situations. Some people will never know when to speak what.
In an office, a man watches a lady going from team to team for some work (may be some official work, and that is none of anyone’s interest). When she comes near him, he asks her (in front of everyone), “Don’t you have any work? You seem to be roaming here and there.” Just imagine her situation. If you are in this situation, what will you feel? Many people still don’t know that it is very bad to ask a person (at work) whether he/she is free in order to help them. Everyone is of course busy with something or anything at work. Isn’t it really silly to ask that question?
Even those can be handled, but when people around you are egoistic, you will definitely have a hard time with them. Some people are sadistic by being egoistic. They enjoy hurting others by their ironic character. They will eat you out of their heads, that too, it is difficult to handle the person when he or she is a close friend or a boy/girl friend, or husband/wife.
Some people say that ego is innate, not acquired. Actually, it seems we tend to develop that trait as we grow. However, being egoistic is not healthy that it can affect one’s relationship. There are many stories of how one lost his/her relationship only because of his/her ego. Ego is devastating. It hurts the people around you.
A pregnant woman expects her husband to spend some valuable time with her, but her husband is always busy with his work, and he could not spend time with her even in the weekends. However, she understands his situation. She messages him in the morning after he reached his office (of course he never replies her), and she calls him at lunch to speak with him, and she expects him to message or call to inform her if he is gonna be late. The husband, but, could not act as expected by his wife. He could not respond her properly when he is at office, because there might be a client problem, delivery problem, or any other problem related to work, and of course the wife understands the situation and asks him nothing. But, instead of at least apologizing for not responding her or speaking about the day with her or asking her how she was doing the whole day, or explaining his situation for not calling her, he does not say anything or even care to explain his wife or comfort her. Is this egoism or laziness? Why didn’t he just understand that his wife has feelings too.
People tend to lose interest to share or to love or even care their (once) loved ones, because they are always near them or they live with them. But, I have always wondered why. The things we used to love in a person become the things we hate in that person after some time goes. We never understand the value of people when they are around us. No one can take back the fact or can “Ctl+Z” when one is hurt due to our actions (both physically and mentally). Once hurt is hurt, as it always remains as a scar in one’s heart.
No one is going to take anything when he or she passes away from this world. This is the common expression that everyone says today. But, according to me, we should be missed by the people we loved the most. That is, we should take with us one's feeling of missing us when we go (of course I don't mean in a negative way). Life is short and why make a hell out of it? According to me, it doesn’t mean that one should have the qualities of Buddha or Gandhi to make that person a good person, but a good person is the one that never hurts others by his/her egoistic attitudes.